Monday, March 2, 2009

Was probably a mistake....

My Daughter has been wanting to get in contact with her real father for a while. I had found on her cell phone where she had been calling people from the phone book with his same name. We have had no contact, I mean none not a phone call, letter or anything for at least 6 years. There is a lot that happened, for sure I can say he was a drug addict there are other things that Im just not sure that may have happend but I never knew for sure. She has always asked about him and I have answered any questions that I knew the answer too. I am the one that asked for there to be no contact and he finally stopped. Im glad he did it made it easier but then im like if he really cared he wouldn't have gone away so easily, but that also could have been the drugs. I asked him to just leave us alone and let us have a chance at a normal life. I got really worried after I saw her trying to call him, but I feel for her and understand. I had told her that I would let her call him sometime like from a payphone. The other day I saw that his wife was on facebook so I set her up a facebook and let her add the wife. Well of course he signed up as well so I let her add him and they have been talking since Friday evening. I told him and my daugther that I am going to read any thing that is written. They can talk as long as he doesn't ask any personal questions such as our address or her school, or phone numbers. I told him that we moved back to the modesto area and i gave him our post office box he wants to send her stuff. Those are things he is going to find out anyway when he gets papers for child support that needs to be modified. I feel like damn i shoudn't have done it, but i would rather it be this way then her to go behind my back and contact him. This way I feel that I have control and I hope that she will respect my wishes. He pretty much is so happy that he is talking to her I don't think he will do anything. I can tell by looking at pictures of him and his wife they aren't doing drugs, way too healthy (chubby) lol. They talked pretty much all day, he was off work and he sat at the computer all day. I talked to him for long time while Sam was still sleeping. I told him that I pretty much hated him and i was doing this for my daughter. I really like talking about how wonderful my daughter was to someone that agreed lol. He said he had lot of birthdays to make up for and he wanted to buy her something she really wanted, i said well don't forget about christmases.

Im going to Idaho for my niece Megan's wedding we are leaving on thursday. My niece Kendels Dad is going to ride with me thank god. I think the weather could get ugly and I don't like driving in the snow. Haven't seen Kenny in years but I'm not worried he is like my brother. Should be a fun ride, and were driving right through Reno woohoo maybe we will have some extra time lol. Yeah my niece Megan is 17 and getting married for the 2nd time. I'm not so concerned about the wedding honestly i think its stupid but its a good chance to go see my family : )


  1. I hope your daughter and her dad forge a good relationship. It was nice of you to relent!

  2. I think that youre just doing whats best for your daughter, and that youre trying to do it in a mature and responsible way. Chances that if you didn't allow her to safely contact him, that she would continue to try to do it herself. This way you are fully aware of whats going on and there shouldn't be any awkwardness involved with them forming a relationship.